Why Can’t We Listen?

20130916 Stephen SchollIntroducing guest blogger – Stephen Scholl

Stephen G. Scholl is a 40-year veteran civil trial attorney who today helps people resolve business and interpersonal conflict without litigation.  As a Peacemaker, he employs innovative approaches that promote healing and restoration of relationships that have been compromised in legal disputes. To learn more about Peacemaking visit www.solveconflict.com or contact steve@solveconflict.com.

When I’m in conflict with another person, listening is tough.  Voices and tensions escalate as the dispute heats up.  Each of us concludes that the other is tuning out.  What happens?  We keep repeating our positions, hoping that the other side will finally “get it.”  In this pattern, either the conflict will intensify further or issues will get stuffed into inventory.  Inability to listen is a major contributor to the deepening of conflict. Read more «Why Can’t We Listen?»