Debra L. Bruce, JD, PCC.
It’s the start of a new year. Time to set new resolutions and goals that, if history is a predictor, will be off track and broken by the end of February, despite our best intentions now. Want to make this year different?
Let’s take a look at why our goal setting hasn’t worked in the past, and what we can do about it.
Not Our Goals
One reason why we often fail to accomplish our goals is that they weren’t really our goals in the first place. They were “shoulds” impressed on us by our spouses, parents, children, business partners, or society in general. So ask yourself, “I want this goal for the sake of what?” Why do I want this? If it’s to get my spouse off my back, I might be better served by choosing a more direct goal for improving my relationship with my spouse.
Do I want it badly enough to really change the way I behave? Do I want it badly enough to get out of my comfort zone and do something kind of scary? Am I willing to work for it? Do I want it enough to persevere and restrategize if initially I do not succeed?
If you cannot honestly answer “yes” to those questions, you would probably be better served by choosing another goal that is closer to your heart. If we keep our same old patterns, we will probably get our same old results.